Raising Kind Kids
It's not easy being a parent, and we want King's Chapel to be a safe place where parents can share ideas about how to raise our kids - the thing we parents most worry about. Last week we started the Sunday morning conversations we'll hold the third Sunday of every month from 10-10:45 AM, while our children are in church school.
I shared some of the important research done by Harvard professor Richard Weissbourd about the messages our kids hear from us parents. We intend to convey certain values, but kids are wise: they watch how we act. Most conclude that we prize achievement or how happy they are more highly than how they treat others. That means that when self-interest collides with being kind or honest, children are at high risk of choosing cruelty or dishonesty.
Of course achievement, happiness and hard work are important values. But what should we do if we want to raise children who prioritize caring, value fairness, and do not always put themselves first? Weissbourd offers concrete suggestions - helpful adjustments we can make.
Our small group discussed these, and shared things we try to do.
It was just a beginning, part of an ongoing conversation, but for me, I learned, got to know some families
better, and left strengthened and encouraged.
Join us next time, November 19 at 10 AM at the Parish House.